Dealing with haters sometimes becomes really very difficult. Because no matter what we do—whether we leave our corporate job to run a business or stay in our corporate job full time, whether we continue our study or drop out from college or university, eat healthily and exercise weekly or binge eat on junk food daily— people will still throw all kinds of hate and criticism at us, especially if you stand for something controversial.
To date, no human being or a great piece of work has escaped criticism and hateful comments.
Nobody is exempt from jealousy and hatred from others; we are all subject to its cruelty during life.
It certainly hurts more if this jealousy comes from a friend because the actions and expressions of a jealous person are not kind or loving. When it comes to a friend or loved one, we take it more personally. However, we need to understand that their jealousy is caused by their own underlying issues and it is not your fault.
Before moving further, it’s important that we clarify the difference between critics and haters. Not all criticism and judgmental comments are equal—in fact, we may find that some criticism can be very constructive for our work.
As a rule of thumb, if the intention behind the criticism is to help us improve something in ourselves, then this could well be constructive criticism.
On the other hand, if the intention is to personally attack us as an individual instead of helping us improve, then this is most likely a hater.
Either way, we still have to learn to handle these haters and critics without worrying and overreacting.
So here are few selected strategies that can help to deal with haters and the negativity they throw at us.
Haters can also be a source of reminding us to better appreciate your victories. Accomplishing something after many people told you that you would not be able to be a great feeling.
You should learn to be proud of what you are able to achieve in your life. Your haters can serve as a reminder to appreciate these victories and be grateful for all the good you are fortunate to have.
The emergence of haters indicates that you have started achieving a certain level of success. Because If you have not accomplished anything yet, then, it is certain that nobody would pay enough attention to criticize you.
When there are people who are hating you for what you do, then it is a sign that you are on the path toward success. take it as an of validation that you have been doing the right types of things.
Must understand that when someone is jealous of you, it is not your fault and has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. Be confident in yourself. Don’t allow anyone especially the jealous person to affect your self-confidence and create self-doubt in you.
Keep doing what you’re doing, and don’t allow others to stop you.
Focus on people that support you.
Always remind yourself you are doing something good that is why they’re jealous of you.
When you know ignoring someone is not working and is not an option, then the best thing is to approach the situation directly, it may help release the jealous tension. Have a conversation to confront them about their behavior.
e.g. I want to build a positive working relationship with you; what I need to do to promote that positive and professional environment?”
I do appreciate constructive criticisms, but I feel that you sometimes are too harsh.
Hurt people hurt people. The most mature, empathetic people understand that something bad must have happened in hateful peoples’ lives that is why they try to tear down other people who are happy or already hurting.
In his interview, Mat Fraser, the four-time champion of Cross Fit Games, said that when I was new to Instagram, negative Instagram comments used to really bother him. But then, he discovered something and never had a problem with it since. He said there’s never been a time when he clicked into the profile of the person who left a negative comment and thought, “That’s a successful person.”
It means only the frustrated, negative and people who themselves don not get ahead in life throw hatred and unnecessary criticism at others who are doing something good and at least trying to.
A famous story of Mario Andretti, which is repeatedly discussed on countless blogs and discussions. Andretti is the most successful and versatile racing driver of all-time, who has won the Indianapolis 500, Daytona 500, Formula One World Championship and the Pike’s Peak International Hill Climb. He is one of only two drivers in history to win races in Formula One, Indy Car, World Sportscar Championship, and NASCAR.
During an interview with SUCCESS magazine, Andretti was asked for his number one tip for success in the race car driving. He said, “Don’t look at the wall. Your car goes where your eyes go.”
The same could be said for our life, our work, and dealing with haters and critics.
Criticism and negativity from negative people are like a wall. And if you just focus on the wall, then you’ll certainly run right into it. Because you’ll be filled with negative emotions, and get blocked by anger, and self-doubt. Your mind goes where your attention and focus is.
It is true that criticism and negativity don’t usually prevent us from reaching our target or goal, but it certainly distracts us from it.
However, if we are moving forward and are focused on the road in front of us then without any doubt we will safely speed past the walls and barriers that are come in our way or are nearby.
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